A Gratitude Exercise for Fathers

Can we first agree that we all wish we had MORE…more love from our daughters, more time to spend with them, more money to help, more of just a normal life?  But the truth is this game of self-punishment and wishing is about as self-sabotaging as any you may play.  You can never have enough of these things and you know this in your heart...

Daughters, We Need Your Advice!

We are collecting letters of advice from women that grew up without an active and involved father in their life. These letters are to dads that are good men who are concerned they may be losing the connection with their daughter due to divorce, separation, military service, business travel, incarceration, or similar circumstances...

I saw your post about your project.  Thank you!  This is an awesome idea!!! I have lots to say to the men I know are good fathers, who love their children, whether they live with them full time or not.  As a woman who essentially grew up without a father and who, as a teacher, has had many students with divorced parents, I have lots of suggestions...

#NotHerToo

...Challenge yourself to be a protector of every daughter. Challenge yourself to be the 'man among men' that leads your peers to the attitudes and behaviors we all know are correct.  Your daughter needs men like you to support her, so be that man to the daughters of others...

I had a conversation with a wonderful friend of mine named Susan Clay. We were discussing "forgiveness" and the way that a father could ask his daughter for that gift. While I was getting caught up in the many levels of debate and self-defense that occur when we are in the wrong, her suggested comment was so simple and perfect...

My advice would be to not sit back and wait. Be pro-active. You are the parent. It is your job to show how much you love and care about your daughter. Every birthday, Christmas, graduation missed - where no call, no card, she notices. Never, ever give up trying.  Even if you don't get the response you want or any response at all. Never give up! ...

I wish he had shown his devotion by staying with me for a whole day occasionally rather than sticking around for a few hours or not at all.  But mostly, it's what I instinctively felt from him that caused me the pain. And that was this feeling that he wanted to be somewhere else or could only 'spare' a few hours...

My advice.... call every night to say goodnight, just like you were there. Leave a message if she doesn’t pick up or text. Send text messages frequently. Ask questions about her life, have special nights where you and her only go do something special. Daddy/daughter date nights. If you are blending a family and you ask her input, take it. If you give her a choice on something in the...